Recently, I came across this post and wish to share my view points over these kinds of things going on at this point.

Okay...I may not agree entirely with what it says. I would appreciate your response after reading the whole thing. Let's keep everything aside and try to understand it objectively.

Yes, you can be angry at people when they hurt you. And also confronting them is imperative, even if they are sensitive and cannot cope well with being told they did something wrong.

However, when the anger for the person who hurt you begins to engulf you progressively, I draw the line.

As time goes on, you soon reach a point where the mere name of the person infuriates you. Any other person, may be the kind of person you need in your life, you dislike them just because they hold the name of the person who hurt you in the past.

Anger, according to someone, "is the punishment we give ourselves for someone else's mistake."

In no way I'm saying not to be angry or forgive the person, I am saying you shouldn't let the anger grow to a point where it burns you and your true self. Anger can serve as a potent tool for asserting boundaries and confronting wrongs, but it can also become toxic when it starts consuming us. We delve into the duality of anger, discussing how controlled and purposeful anger can lead to productive resolutions, while unbridled rage can have destructive consequences.

True and controlled emotions can make you human ,uncontrolled and illusional emotions can make you emotionless and insensitive. While emotions have the power to make you alive, they also have the power to make you a living dead. There are limits to everything, including emotions. Excessive anger is poison. Also, excessive love is poison.

Also, when it is said that "their sensitivity does not mean I have to bottle up my feelings and their lack of coping skills does not make me express my anger abusive " we need to understand that when you express your anger you do not have the right to abuse or torture them physically or mentally. There is a difference between confronting and abusing. We must understand the difference, though its subtle

I'll tell you a story.

A python suffocated a king cobra while the king cobra bit it. Both snakes died, one of asphyxiation and the other from venom.

That's how we destroy each other. The history of mankind has been witness to such madness They hurt you, you confronted, they take the scar, and again hurt you...and the cycle goes on.

Drawing parallels with the python and king cobra story, we reflect on how perpetuating cycles of hurt can poison our relationships. Understanding the consequences of our actions and breaking this cycle is essential for building harmonious connections.

I have felt this and not many people accept this, but, today's modernisation and fake self love have destroyed the prudence and humanity in humans itself making them extremely selfish in a veil of self love and self priority. We need to analyse how modernization and the concept of self-love have influenced human behaviour and shaped the way we interact with others. Balancing self-care with compassion for others is crucial for maintaining our humanity.

Now comes the question, how to distinguish between whom to express anger and whom not to ?

CASE 1-a person who gets hurt by you being angry is an emotional being. That means it may happen that when they hurt you its the effect of their past thing or it may be the situations creating misunderstandings between you . If you feel the person didn't mean to hurt you but impulsively or unintentionally did it, please learn to forgive them and make them understand their mistake in a polite way. Try to understand that you didn't bottle up the trauma because you would have suffered then. Imagine they carry the scar given by you the whole life and suffering the whole thing that you had to at some point of your life. If we know the pain why to give it to someone knowingly ?

Empathy and forgiveness play crucial roles in healing emotional wounds and fostering healthier connections. We explore the power of empathy in understanding others' intentions and the significance of forgiveness in releasing ourselves from the burdens of anger and resentment.

CASE 2- if the person who have hurt you is an antagonist ,and have hurt you intentionally and still may get affected by your confrontations, you need not bother the after effects of the confronts. Simply eliminate them from your life.

The distinction between these 2 cases is subtle and only understandable if we are emotionally intellectual and understand the intentions of the person in front of you. It's also crucial to distinguish between healthy confrontation and abusive behaviour when dealing with conflicts. We delve into the subtleties of communication, emphasizing the need for assertiveness without resorting to cruelty or manipulation.

Not everyone deserves your compassion, not everyone deserves your anger. Emotional intelligence plays a significant role in navigating the complexities of human relationships. We discuss the importance of being emotionally intellectual and understanding the intentions behind others' actions to respond appropriately.

In a world where emotions run deep, finding the balance between expressing anger and practicing compassion is crucial for building healthy relationships. By delving into the intricacies of human emotions and understanding the intentions behind actions, we can foster empathy, forgiveness, and emotional intelligence in our interactions, ultimately leading to more meaningful and fulfilling connections with others.

I hope the article concludes by offering practical guidelines for distinguishing between individuals who deserve our compassion and those who may need to be eliminated from our lives. Recognizing emotional patterns and intentions can help us make informed decisions about how to respond to various situations.

Do share your thoughts on this. Contrasting view points are welcome.

I appreciate you for being a patient reader !